by Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok Serebryanski
Many times the question, why do bad things happen to good people is mentioned. The answer is because that is the way life is. Good and bad are judgments and as long as we judge we will not have an answer that stops bad things happening to good people.
Most important is to take every situation and use it to find a new balance in life. The thing you believe life is about is what you see in everything. Your belief or desire becomes your focus in everything. If life is about doing what the Creator wants then we must see the Creator in each aspect. This type of perspective opens doors for us since we do not allow our own agenda or issues to get in the way.
The thoughts of the mind and emotions of the heart are gifts and can be used in a very positive way. Yet, there are many who abuse those gifts and use it for self -centered purposes. Having the ability to do something does not mean you should do it. We live in a world with much abuse and many questions including our creating answers about things we cannot control. Due to the agenda of individuals, society has an agenda and it often creates much waste on physical, mental and spiritual levels.
The healing that needs to happen is so immense it can only be done in a way that was not done till now. We all have gone through a lot, but if we learn to come together with the proper focus we can create a society that is unimaginable at this this time.
Many times bad things happen and a person can learn a lesson and grow from it. There are times we can correct the cause and at other times there is no answer. The most healing thing a person can do is to change his/her perspective of matters. This enables the person to rise above the situation and take control of oneself. It enables a person to take a negative situation and make it positive. (Many judgments often take a situation and make it into a negative.) When a situation is transformed, it then serves a positive purpose. If it is not transformed it remains negative.
The Torah (Exodus 25, 26, 27) teaches us about the building of the Tabernacle. The people were all told in detail about the physical donations that can be made. The other donations of self, mental, emotional and spiritual are only mentioned in brief. (Exodus 25:2) “Take me, that is an elevation. From each person who donates his/her heart you shall accept the elevation.”
Stating the physical donations in detail make sense as most people relate to the physical. There are many people who understand the heart but many groups and individuals of society are against an open heart if it does not serve their agenda and crush it causing pain and death.
The physical donations to the Temple are represented by Abraham putting his tools on a chamor when he was on his journey with Isaac to serve the Creator. Chamor means donkey but also refers to the physical.
The heart donation is represented by Moses on his way to have the Israelites redeemed from Egypt; he put his wife and children on a donkey. This is because in the time of Moses there was more spiritual bonding.
In the future the Messiah himself will ride on the chamor as all the elements blocking between the spirit and physical will be removed. There will be no more pain and suffering.
Usually the way we ask a question is the way the response comes back to us. If we ask, what can I learn or how can I grow for a situation then the question itself already moves the person forward. When the question is asked with a judgment then as long as the judgment is there the person is stuck in that space and there is no real answer.
May we all be aware that there is always perspective beyond where our mind thinks or our emotions hold us. These are the offerings to building an internal Temple (Exodus 25:8) “And they (each person) will make for me a Holy place and I will dwell within them (within each person.)”
There are situations where people are devastated but when people come together in a more powerful way then they were living, the devastation brings out deeper parts of the people that were previously covered or not used. We live in times that are forcing people to make decisions that they made not have even dreamt of a short while back. We all live in this world together and together we can bring it back to a more natural balance.
Rabbi Yossi is a teacher, lecturer, mashgiach, published author, spiritual healer, professional counselor and guide. In his daily life he is just Rabbi Yossi – a highly perceptual and loving friend to all.